I am going to start this post with a recap of yesterday's events.
I had plans to go out with a new run club at 6pm. J finishes work at 4:30 and runs home to avoid the traffic and slow winter commute. It is a 7k run so if you do the math he automatically logs 35 km/work week. Yesterday he got home at 5:33. When he came through the door he said:
J: "aren't you going to run club"
Me: "no, it's too late"
J: "you could have told me"
followed by an IRATE Lindsey whose choice of words probably don't need to be included here ; )
To protect you and your significant other from a similar argument I thought I would point out some of the reasons why that is a CRAZY thing to say to a new mama.
- Unpredictable Babies - I have no idea how ANY day with baby W will pan out. At 9 weeks he doesn't have a predictable schedule, he still cluster feeds during the evening and he continues to resist a bottle. At this points plans are more like possibilities.
- Day to Day Logistics - The execution of a solo outing (even for an hour) takes a lot of planning. The location is based on the amount of time I will spend driving. 15 minutes each way is considerable if you tack that on to a 90 minute yoga class and a baby that eats about every 2 hours. The solution: 60-75 minute yoga class a 5 minute drive away.
- Breastfeeding Realities - When W nursed dictates when I can leave. I know this is hard to understand for spouses but it relates closely to logistics. Add in the need to pump a "just in case" bottle and things are further complicated. I can try to pump right after a nursing session but if he wants to eat 30 minutes later lower milk at that time will make for a very fussy baby.
- The New "Getting Ready" - I can rarely just change and go now. For one, getting my sports bra on now seems like a pre workout warm up. Chances are I need to rinse spit up out of my hair and try to find two matching socks amidst the baby laundry that isn't yet folded. There are also new things to consider like breast pads for my sports bra. Let's not talk about the leaking I really hope other people think was sweat during my HIIT class this weekend.
- Energy Highs & Lows - here is the most important part. After an 11 hour day with a baby smack dab in the middle of a 10 week growth spurt, I may not feel like working out. I might want to go upstairs for just 30 minutes to read a magazine on my own. I might want to go on a 20 minute walk to regroup for my next day of mommy duties. Sometimes I just want to go to Starbucks and have a grown up coffee around grown up people.
This is my new world. While I can make plans and workout schedule I also know that they are merely plans. My new world places Weston first and everything else second and I am mighty fine with that (until a well-meaning spouses comment rocks the boat).
Today I hope to get to a yoga class. My mat is calling me for some much needed deep yogi breathing.